All right, I’m jumping away from writing for a moment, and I’m going to make this quick. I’ve been seeing a lot of posts circulating about why you should or shouldn’t get married at 23, and, as someone who got married at 22, I guess I fall close enough to this category.
So, here are 23 reasons why you shouldn’t worry about what everyone else is doing.
1 – 23: It’s not your life.
As individuals, everything we encounter is circumstantial. We all handle situations differently and, while there may be similarities in the way we handle them, there really aren’t two situations that people handle exactly alike. For example: The reason to get married.
Who are you to decide whether or not two people who want to get married should do so? So what if they’re 23? It’s not hurting you, is it? So what if it’s an “emerging social trend.” It’s not hurting you, is it? So what if they’re doing it for a reason you don’t agree with? it’s not hurting you, is it???
One reason in particular I read for why 23/24 year olds get married is because, essentially, the world is scary and they want to hide behind each other.
Yeah, the world is scary, and the fact that you have someone you can depend on to help you out in hard times, and in return you can help them out because you’re in an equal partnership and want nothing than to see the other succeed seems like a damn good reason to get married to me. If you’re willing to bet your life on someone, and you can depend on them to help you out no matter what, and they know they can count on you as well, go and get married right now. That is a fantastic reason to get married because, as I said, the world is scary. It’s terrifying, and people need someone else to count on to make it through hard times.
Who cares at what age someone else gets married? If you don’t want to get married at age 23, 24, 25, or even at all, then don’t. But just because two people get married young doesn’t mean it’s going to be a train wreck, and even if they end up getting divorced and hating each other and resenting every decision they ever made, it doesn’t matter. It’s not your life. It’s not your decision.
Now, how about we focus on something a bit more important, eh?